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Ex-Girlfriend Doesn’t Like Me Anymore?
Okay, so here’s the deal. My girlfriend and I were absolutely crazy about each other, and we were only about two and a half months into our relationship when she had to go to Ecuador for a month. We communicated through text messages and she called me on occasion. Finally, after waiting for her that month and falling even more for her during that time, she comes back and she tells me that she doesn’t “feel it” anymore and that she liked the feeling of being single while on vacation and still would like to be my friend because I’m a cool guy. She says she still likes me but only because of what we used to have. She also insists that she doesn’t want a boyfriend right now and can;t give someone the time they need because of school, work, and sports. Although, she had this before and had enough time to do everything. It just seems as if she’s giving herself an excuse as to why it can;t work out. And I would sacrifice time with her jsut to be with her, she is that great. So what the hell?
I hear ya, I’ve been there recently this summer in a very similar situation. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend because of a recent “crossroad”, in which she doesn’t know what to think of me and how she felt with the relationship. We dated for four months. Like many relationships, this one seemed to have started really well (and my friends thought we were doing great), until it all ended. What even hurt me the most was when I tried to reason with her that we can fix whatever problem we are dealing with, and try to work it out as a couple should, but she never seemed to be interested and decided to pull the “let’s be friends” card. All this happened the day before my scheduled trip to go abroad…
The many thoughts you would (or currently) feeling would include confusion, self-guilt, self-blame, trying to “decipher” her as to what she means by “not feeling it anymore”, what you would’ve done to save the relationship, etc. Heck, you probably had thoughts trying to win her back and prove her what you had was really great. Believe me, I went through all those thoughts, and it’s normal to go through it all…
All I can say is to try to accept what happened and move on, even though this may not be the desired option you want to take. As my friends suggested during my break-up with my ex, they all suggested to take whatever happened as a preview to what you really want in a relationship, and what you can possibly avoid.
If she still wants to be friends with you, do so ONLY if you know you are ready. There are possibilities that a friendship can be saved after an emotional break-up, BUT only that as long as both parties are willing to keep to that promise. I would not suggest being her friend ONLY to have the reason to win her back. This option is not only an option that is unlikely to work, but it is also an option that is very toxic for you. Don’t hurt yourself even more in a situation that will only give you more heartache.
All I can say is to keep your head up, try to be around people that matters to you the most as well as give you the provided support you need, take a different perspective at life, and try to move on from this unfortunate matter. I know it will take time to heal, but don’t let it bring you down.
I hope this helps. Good Luck.
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